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 Goth Rites of Passage 
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There's a lot of joking in the subculture about Goth Points and Baby Bats, and a lot of times, it feels surprisingly relevant. There were times growing up and growing into my own Gothdom where I acknowledged that I still felt like a Baby Bat.

I realized there are certain events that make us feel like we finally graduated from that initial level, whether it's your first pair of boots or the first time you meet a kindred spirit.

Yesterday night felt like a coming of age for me when I found myself attending a Peter Murphy concert and feeling like I had found a safe haven in a room full of hair taller than the stage and grinning faces. It was seeing my Not-A-Goth boyfriend stare at the band in awe, admitting finally that he felt a sense of security there too. The crowning moment for me was standing outside, passing my Al Capone to an older woman in black lace, and she told me that she could tell I was "in black for the long haul."

Has anyone else had the feeling that they had finally escaped the Baby Bat Cave? Is there anything you'd consider a Goth Rite of Passage?

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Tue Jun 10, 2014 9:29 pm
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Post Re: Goth Rites of Passage
There is one, and only one rite of passage.

That is the moment when you become self-aware of an important change. That moment when you realize you forgot all about looking/being Goth a long time ago. That moment when you can look back and see that at some murky point it just became the way you are.

Everyone else was just getting in the way.

Merely that, and nothing more.

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Tue Jun 10, 2014 11:12 pm
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Post Re: Goth Rites of Passage
For me, it was a similar experience to Missing-Mile's. My first visit to a club's goth night (that I had to drive 2 1/2 hours to attend) made me realize that these were the people I had something in common with. It felt like coming home, and gave me the initiative to consciously live my life as a goth every day.

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Wed Jun 11, 2014 4:46 am
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Post Re: Goth Rites of Passage
Oidhche-Yorath wrote:
There is one, and only one rite of passage.

That is the moment when you become self-aware of an important change. That moment when you realize you forgot all about looking/being Goth a long time ago. That moment when you can look back and see that at some murky point it just became the way you are.

Everyone else was just getting in the way.

Merely that, and nothing more.


I think you mean the moment you actually realize you want to become involved with the subculture.
I'm asking about the moment when you feel accepted into the community, that moment where you not only accept yourself but you feel like others have accepted it as well.

-- Thu Jun 12, 2014 6:52 pm --

Oidhche-Yorath wrote:
There is one, and only one rite of passage.

That is the moment when you become self-aware of an important change. That moment when you realize you forgot all about looking/being Goth a long time ago. That moment when you can look back and see that at some murky point it just became the way you are.

Everyone else was just getting in the way.

Merely that, and nothing more.


I think you mean the moment you actually realize you want to become involved with the subculture.
I'm asking about the moment when you feel accepted into the community, that moment where you not only accept yourself but you feel like others have accepted it as well.

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Thu Jun 12, 2014 2:52 pm
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No, I meant exactly what I stated.

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Thu Jun 12, 2014 7:04 pm
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Oidhche-Yorath wrote:
No, I meant exactly what I stated.

And stated very well, I agree with you.

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Post Re: Goth Rites of Passage
Noise! wrote:
Oidhche-Yorath wrote:
No, I meant exactly what I stated.

And stated very well, I agree with you.

yes.

-- Sat Jun 14, 2014 1:56 am --

Missing-Mile wrote:
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Has anyone else had the feeling that they had finally escaped the Baby Bat Cave? Is there anything you'd consider a Goth Rite of Passage?



At some point in the future you may consider another event or realization to have more weight or meaning. If you are happy with what has happened, and at this time that is your rite, then more power to you.

I don't remember any specific moment but agree more with the other post.

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Fri Jun 13, 2014 10:27 pm
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I will admit, I misread Oidheche the first time I read through. I apologize for this.

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I have only recently attained consciousness out of the black mire of videogame and monster cans; so I am certain that I am still a spooky kid. But, I'm hopeful ...


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For me it was when I began to love myself. Not in a narcissistic way. I simply loved who I was. I loved the way I looked and I felt content and secure, even when I just threw on a shirt and some jeans with no makeup and went down to the store, it didn't change how I felt to when I was all dressed up for a night out. I just felt right, felt "me", and I loved it.

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I'm thinking in the same line, that it has everything to do with when you stop trying. When you simply feel comfortable with the way you are and comfortable in identifying as goth even when you're not all dressed up. When 'goth' becomes 'normal' and you don't even have to - or feel the need to - think about it.

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Post Re: Goth Rites of Passage
I would say that my personal rite of passage was when I started attending university. I have considered myself goth since I was a child, like around 13 years old, but everyone seemed to find it weird. My parents did not even want me to listen to sisters of mercy for example, let alone dressing goth. During high school I started learning more things about the whole goth subculture (literature, story, music, fashion..) but I kept all these things to myself. When last September I started university I also quit hiding my goth traits. Now I dress in a more goth way, even if nothing extreme, and I talk about people more freely about my interests when it comes about it. I don't go around screaming "oh, I am so goth", but I don't hide it either.


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